I am over at Here today talking about setting one-on-one dates with your kiddos. In therapy terms- we call it Filial Therapy or Child Parent Relationship Therapy. It is where the parent sets up special play dates with their child on a weekly basis. If done consistently and appropriate, it can have so many benefits for both the parent and child:
Benefits for child:
Understand and communicate feelings more openly
Be more confident in asking and telling parents what they need
Feel more secure with parents
Benefits for Parent:
Finding joy in playing
More understanding of their child's needs and worries
Increasing listening and communication skills
Closer relationship with their child
To get started:
- Collect a variety of toys and art supplies and place them in a bin. The toys in this bin are to be saved for the “Special Play dates.” Below is a list of recommended toys.
- Set a consistent time and find an uninterrupted place in your home suitable for playing without distractions. Make sure it is a place where you aren’t worried of things getting a bit messy.
- Make a sign to put on the door for everyone to know that there is a “You & Me” moment occurring.
What toys should you look for putting in your toy box?
-small baby doll
-kitchen dishes w/pretend food
-animals different sizes
-scissors and flue
-deck of cards
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Things I encourage parents to do during play dates:
- Set the stage by setting a blanket down for boundaries and placing the toys on the outer edge of the blanket. Try to place them the same way every time to keep consistency.
- Avoid criticizing or taking charge during play.
- Avoid lectures or giving information.
- Allow your child to be the boss- that means to act as an active follower.
- Reflect your child’s feelings and verbally describe what you see them doing.
- Transitioning can be difficult at times so try giving a 5 minute warning or setting a timer when there is only five minutes left.
More to come on"Special Play dates."