Ever since we went to Thailand, I obsessed with elephants. They are so remarkable. Did you know that scientists have found that elephants are capable of complex thought and feelings such as love, grief, and joy?
I am especially fascinated by mother elephants.
Did you now that Elephants live in Matriarchal families made up of other female and calves and are headed by the oldest mother? A mother Elephant is pregnant for 22 months! Yikes 22 months!! Mother and child remain in constant touch with one another for many years as the baby still suckles milk until 4 or 5 years old or until the tusks become a problem! If a calf strays too far from his mother- she will retrieve him and keep him close. She is often found hugging and wrapping her trunk around her little one, carrying him over obstacles, bathing and gently scrubbing her calf, dusting him with dirt, and protecting him from predators or the hot sun. Isn't that so cool? There is a great deal more info on this elephants emotions here if you want to know more.
Well, while we were in Thailand we got to get up close and personal with the fascinating creatures.
Please note that Little Man sorta froze during his first encounter with the elephant...
But he got a lot more comfortable as time went on and loved feeding them sugar cane and bananas!
Going to our local zoo will never compare to this day. B E S T D A Y E V E R !!!
I have learned a lot from a mother elephant.
Recently, I have heard several comments from family members about how my son is a "mama's boy" and needs to get over it. I admit, it is true...he is. But is that so bad?
He wakes up every morning and crawls into bed with me where he showers me with kisses, hugs, cuddles, and "I love yous" until we are ready to get up. He prefers being with me to most other people... but loves playing with his friends and family members that he has a relationship with. (Many of the comments were from people he doesn't see very often)
What do you think?
Is it so awful to have your son actually enjoys to spend time with you and shows affection towards you... okay maybe a lot. But what if it DOESN'T stop him from exploring his world with others and friends. He loves his friends.
My personal and processional opinion? First, I want to hear from you.
In a book I love called: The book of Nurturing by Linda and Richard Eyre- and in one of their chapters they talk about parenting like an elephant's trunk- it has the ability to be firm and set limits yet be gentle and flexible. That is how I want to be as a mother.
So in summary:
An Elephant taught me:
Our love needs to be nurturing with hugs and cuddles each day.
Our love has to set clear limits and firm when needed.
Out love must shower them with approval and dust them with confidence regularly.
We must be protective and alert and warn them loudly and clearly of danger.
Our love should remove barriers in their path and pick them up when they need us to but also let them walk the path under their own power when they are ready.
Our love must be versatile and flexible, seeing children’s needs and willing to be sometimes tough and sometimes tender.
What are your thoughts on having a "mama's boys?"